It's A Matter Of Love ( A Black Girls Method )

365 Days of Love After talking with one of my vary beautiful girlfriends last night, I was inspired to go this route today... I don't want to confuse our journey, to LOVE 365 does not mean to except abuse in order to LOVE someone. We must give it to receive it, receive it to give it, it is reciprocated and is reciprocal. The first step is understanding LOVE... LOVE is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; LOVE does not brag and is not arrogant,it dose not hurt.. HURT is when you have a blacks eye, when he say words to you that kills your spirit, kills your self worth,when you cant complete a thought without him taking over, making it hes, you no longer have a voice, he does not validate your feeling, good or bad. He withholds his LOVE through using sex as a weapon as a tool to control or manipulate you, to deprive you of emotional fulfillment. These are all forms of Abuse. LOVE has a look and a sound;it is GOOD, LOVE is an Action word. When your mate say they LOVE you, their wo...

365 Days of Love Calling all LOVERS, This a national announcement ....Find your mates, no matter where they may be. Tell them they must get home right away, tell them...( baby it's cold outside) and on this cold winters day you need his/ her body heat to keep warm. As the snow fall, painting the ski with beautiful white promises of what the day could bring. Stand still, watch, as the dreams unfold. When your love arrives, meet them at the door, help them with their things. Gather your favorite blanket or comforter; big enough for the two of you. Set up all you will need for the next few hours, have his/ her favorite drink prepared. We will have hot chocolate, now in front of your big picture window or maybe you have a balconey over looking a lake. Wrap yourselves in the covers, indulge in your treats and in each other...

365 Days of Love Today we are back on track right? Now let me ask you what does the word LOVE mean to you? I ask this because in our journey, we can not get to our destination if we're not clear. Do you know what kind of lover or partner you are in your relationship? for example... when there is an upset in the air. You pull back (A Subtractor) You make things hard for them (A Punisher) You try to make thing right again ( A Pleaser) You withhold sex (A Controler) He/She has never understood your point of view, He/She always control the argument... You are never right, they are always right, in all the whole three hundred years you've been together. (A Door Mat) Today we are in love with knowing we can choose...LOVE!

365 Days of Love OK , today is a good day, I can't say the same for yesterday. Saturday the 37 th day into our love journey. My love and I was in Blockbuster video store, just walked in, my man say ask the girl a the desk "where are the blu -ray videos" . I'm standing right in front of her ; as I walked in a went straight over to see the now available list. Now when he say ask, I ask him in a sweet soft voice "the one's for sale". He snapped and said "NO! THE ONES FOR SALE", across the room this came and slapped me in my face. I did not understand why he had just spoke to me in such a harsh tone and, in front of this blockbuster employee. Who's now looking at me with sad eyes, In my mind, the store Carrie both videos for rent and for sale, witch neither of these words was in his sentence . WOW! I asked for the keys, in a sweet soft voice. I went, got in the car and waited while he finished his search. Now, we will have our moments. ...